What does feminism really mean? According to the Oxford Dictionary the definition of feminism is…
1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.
2: organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests.
So with this in mind, Feminism should be about both women and men fighting for the equal rights of all mankind, right? But, all I’ve seen over the last few days, is the divide getting even bigger. Men getting annoyed saying “why isn’t there an International Men’s Day? Surely if you ladies want equality men should have a day too?” – no the reason that we have this day is because it’s a celebration of the women who have successfully made it into what has been for so long, a “mans world”. It’s a reminder that there’s still so much further for us as a society to go before things are equal. It has nothing to do with us being better than you! It’s a celebration of how far we’ve come as a society not just about how awesome women are. Should it really annoy you this much?! If you have a wife, a girlfriend, a mother, a sister or a daughter, celebrate for them.
Amongst the empowering messages taking over social media, there are messages that are bound to rub men up the wrong way, is that what feminism is really about? No! Statements like “The Future Is Female” are what I am talking about – aren’t we all the future? Isn’t what we ALL do and achieve now, a reflection on what our childrens children’s future will be.
Sometimes I find myself justifying what women mean with statements like the above, because if I don’t agree with it other women will think that I’m more than happy for men to rule the world and if I don’t believe that ‘The Future Is Female’ then I don’t care about equality. Of course I do, but I want men to join in the fight for equality, not be pushed away with statements like that. Surely we should be using International Women’s Day to share articles about inspirational women and use it as a day to empower other women, rather then sharing articles that put men down. Feminism just confuses me at the moment, is it really a fight for equal rights or just a constant dig at the opposite sex?
“The future is equality”
When I read articles like this Buzzfeed one “32 Everyday Things Women Do That Men Don’t Have To Worry About”, I wonder if people realise that this probably isn’t helping the situation. Don’t get me wrong, I read this article and thought, yep, that happens to me or yep, that’s how I feel. For a few moments I get annoyed at men, because why isn’t there a birth control for men yet? Or why do I have to hide my tampon in my sock just in case one of my male colleagues sees it and it makes him feel uncomfortable. But dwelling on the divide between what women have to deal with and what men have to deal with, is that really going to help the situation? Probably not! Are we fighting with men or against them to make the world a more equal place?
I have an amazing boyfriend who after reading a draft of this post starting looking at articles and research papers on birth control for men. He wants equality for women just as much as I do, but when he reads articles like the Buzzfeed one, yeah some of the points make sense to him, but it also makes him angry, because it’s not just about women wanting to be equal it’s also a rant at men. Sharing articles like this aren’t going to do anything for equality, if there are points in this article that make you feel like a victim start doing something about it, start fighting for what is your right.
All I know is that the fight is real, but we need everyone to be fighting together. With disgusting men like Donald Trump in the world leading the way, it’s hard to believe that we’ll get anywhere, anytime soon, but we can only hope!
This Buzzfeed article about badass women is much more inspirational and shines a light on the women actually going out there and making the world a better place for us all to live in, not just moaning about the world being unfair.
Why does talking about feminism always turn into a rant?